The day your babies are born, survival mode takes over. You realize you can exist on two hours of sleep and three-day-old granola bars. Showers become a luxury you can't afford. It's difficult when you're in the trenches but it is such a short time in your life. One day you'll put your twins down for a nap and your first thought is no longer, "I must nap or I will die." When you reach that point (congratulations!), birds will sing. They were always singing, but you were too busy/tired to notice them.
This is an important moment. This is the time when you need to think about yourself again. What did you love to do before your twins? What do you miss the most? Is it writing? Cooking? Going to the gym? Spending quality time with your husband? Your friends? What have you always wanted to do but were too scared to try? (FYI: If you can carry/birth/raise two babies at the same time, you can do anything. Anything.) This is also a time to look at what you're currently doing. Is it fulfilling? Is it necessary? Does it inspire you? If it's not something you truly love, let it go.
When Jude & Sloane arrived I loved being a mom even more than I expected. But it came with its own challenges and with each new day the old me was slipping away. I felt lost when I reached the pivotal moment I described above. I was having a hard time remembering what made me happy before the twins. When I would think of something, I felt guilty for wanting to have a life outside my family.
I finally realized what I missed the most: Writing and interacting with adults. The idea of Twin Talk was born and I was so excited to get started. Thanks to your support, it's been an amazing six months. The excitement and passion I have for this blog just continues to grow. And with each sweet comment, question, or post idea from you, I grow as well.
My challenge to you is this: If you're pregnant with twins, write down what makes you thrive. I'm not kidding - write it down - because, believe it or not, there will be a time not long from now when you won't remember. Keep that piece of paper in a safe place and pull it out when you're ready. To those of you whose twins are already here, try your best to remember what it is and DO IT. Don't doubt your ideas, don't doubt yourself, and don't feel guilty for wanting a tiny piece of your life back. It will make you a better wife, a better mom, and a better friend. If you're thinking, "I don't have the energy to do anything else," I promise whatever it is you choose will give you far more energy than you had before.
Your family will always come first... but that doesn't mean you have to be last.
Thank you for letting a crazy dream of mine become an amazing reality. I'm having so much fun.